I have so much to catch you up on! Easter, Mother's Day, a 10 day trip to Utah...but I can't seem to concentrate on anything right now.
I love my job, but I hate working. I want to be home with my baby. Having 11 days with him just made me realize how much I am missing everyday. Is it wrong to make selfish decisions...stupid financial decisions...if it means that I can hang out with my kid and watch him grow up? I don't know anymore. All I know is that my heart hurts.
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Hey girl,
ReplyDeleteGood luck w that. It's a hard choice. I worked and I did it bc I wanted to--not bc I had to. Now I am home with my 2 kiddos and I love it. I know my mom stayed home w us 9 kids while my dad worked. I know we were poor and did wo a lot. But im so thankful she was home. But we were also quite the crazy bunch!
Ps: ill be in sac in june...love to see you
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It isn't a selfish decision - you would be making it for the better of your child. If there is any way at all to swing it, then I think you should go for it. It isn't easy - you've seen us - we have struggled financially and given up a lot for me to stay home with the kids, but I know in my heart that our kids have benefited from it in thousands of ways that will make them better people. If you have to work, that's ok too - you do what you have to do. But don't discount your own happiness either.
ReplyDeleteIm not a mom yet, so I do not know the heart tug o war you are facing... but when in doubt PRAY about it and you all get the answers you need. Pray, fast and go to the temple and I know God will answer your prayers and HE will guide you to do what is best for your family.
ReplyDeleteLove you!
I love what the girl above me said :) Also, here are a few added thoughts: In another year when your sweet boy is 2, you are probably more likely to regret not staying home, then to quit and look back and regret quitting your job. (make sense?) yes, I'm sure it'll be hard financially and if you have to work, definitely do what is best for your family; however, if there is a way to swing it and make it work, you will never regret those precious moments you have with him and the wonderful things you can teach him. He won't 'remember what clothes he wore or what car you drove, he'll remember spending time with you and the fun things you do together. It's a really hard decision, but you will make the right one :) love you girl and I'm sad I missed you in Utah. You'll just have to stop by next time you're at Disneyland :)
ReplyDeletelove what previous people have said... YOU are the only one who can make this decision. You and Jared... don't worry about what others think... fast and pray and you will get your answer. I always wanted to be a stay at home mother, but I wanted to TRY working just so I knew I was doing the right thing. I went back to work when Hailey was 6 months and I worked part time. It was SO hard, I had to quit. The reason I did that was because a co-worker said she was a much better mother after working because she got a break from the kids. Everyone has a different look at things. You will ALWAYS wonder if you are doing what is right for the baby; either working or not... you are a wonderful mother and you will make the right decision for your family! Good Luck!~
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